Alcoholism - My Messy Ol' Gay Life

February 11, 2026

DOUBLE TROUBLE

Late in the summer of 1976, I stood on the landing outside of my building while the telephone rang and rang in my back-garden apartment. As soon as the front…

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Dysfunctional Family Musing

February 22, 2021

Twilight of Sundown Soldier

“Dad’s got cancer.” Barbie’s voice quivered between fear and indignation.

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August 24, 2020

Three Dollar Bill

After suppressed memories of my father surfaced a few years ago, I began to wonder if PTSD was the only thing that he brought back with him from the war.

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LGBTQ+

March 2, 2020

Peeking Into The Closet

In her book, Shameless, A Sexual Reformation, Nadia Bolz-Weber writes that she navigated her sex life “without any wisdom from my elders.” I had the same experience because most of my gay elders were deep in the closet.

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